My idea of a good life has been changing as I have grown older. When I was a teenager, a good life to me meant having money, cars and success. The main things that I live by now and that allow me to be happy are self care, family and living in the moment.

Flash forward to the present, even though those things are important like money and success. They ultimately lead to disappointment and feeling empty once you have them. They should not be something to obsess over in my opinion.

Self Care

This one is new to me as well. Very new. However, it is extremely important. When I say Self care, I am referring to checking up on yourself. For example, checking on your mental health or your health in general.

We live in a hectic world, especially parents who have to leave themselves as the lowest priority. We have to remember to ask for help and take some time to wind down and make sure we are giving our kids 100% and not 10%. Taking that time to yourself can drastically change how you treat yourself, your spouse and your kids.

Although it sounds easy to say, I would recommend setting time aside just like you do for scrolling to tik tok or instagram. Instead spend that time walking, exercising or doing an in home spa session. Something that will help you relax or improve yourself.

Family

This one may be a miss for those who are not parents or don’t get along with their family. Although, family has become one of the most important factors in my overall quality of life.

If you are a parent, you understand how having someone depend on you and look up to you completely changes the game. You have no choice but to do good because you don’t want to let your children down.

Family can also be there for support. Friends come and go but your brother, mom or dad will be there when you most need them. In my opinion that is, not everyone has a great relationship with their family and thats ok.

“Family” doesn’t have to mean by blood. Whoever is your support system, that is your family.

Living in the moment

Lately I have been using this tip. Ever since I lost my grandpa on my fathers side, I feel like there is a ticking clock on everyone just counting down. While that may sound macabre or pessimistic. I feel that it is very realistic.

If you do not live your life in the now, you will never get that time back. With that said, if you are thinking of starting over, forgiving a family member, or starting a new career. DO IT.

Instead of living with the “I wonder what could have happened”, live with the “I tried this and I saw an outcome to it”. Wether its positive or negative, the important thing is that you DID IT.

Thank you for reading!